WHY DO WE ANGER?
Anger is a psychological condition that is brought on by internal turmoil and a desire for retribution. And when this irritation escalates into violence, it fuels the flame of rage. One’s brain is engulfed in a tremendous tumult, which causes the mind and intellect to become uncontrollable and helpless. This is the reason why someone like this grows oblivious to manners and advice. Although it is a weakness, anger is often mistaken for strength. In actuality, it was a spark that ignited you, and you later burned others. Therefore, that fire hurts not just you but also other people.
ANGER’S DEVASTATING IMPACT
Even while anger is a normal emotion, people who let it rule their lives suffer the consequences. It has an impact on mental health and can cause loneliness, anxiety, guilt, depression, and other negative emotions. A person’s physical health, which includes headaches, eye strain, gastrointestinal trouble, and cardiac issues, among other things, is greatly impacted in addition to their mental health. It also has an impact on families and society as a whole. When someone gets angry and acts on it, he or she intensifies hatred within themselves and among others around them, which causes individuals to sever ties with him or her. Worst may result in murder and mayhem. Above all, that individual displeases Allah and decides to veer off the straight road, for which he suffers repercussions until he begs for Allah’s pardon and mercy.
MANAGEMENT OF ANGER IN LIGHT OF THE QURAN
Humans experience a wide range of emotions that we sometimes find difficult to manage. One of them—and the strongest one as well—is anger. Fortunately for us, Allah has instructed us on how to handle it in the Quran. That is why the Quran is such a crucial source of knowledge for us to live an Islamic life. Allah has commanded us to control our anger in all circumstances, no matter how trying. In the Qur’an, He clearly mentions this when He says:
Who give [to Allah’s cause] in comfort and tribulation, who control their wrath, and who grant forgiveness to those who have wronged them; [Quran 3:134] Allah loves the doers of good.
What greater accomplishment is there for us to achieve than to adore Allah and, as they say, to be in His good books. Allah has commanded us to suppress our wrath since it destroys potentially dangerous situations.
In the Holy Qur’an, Allah repeatedly makes reference to controlling anger and forgiving others while also citing examples from His prophets. (The father of Prophet Ibrahim, PBUH) said to him) Allah states in the Qur’an.
He chastised Abraham, saying, “How dare you reject my gods! I’ll definitely stone you to death if you don’t stop. Be away from me for a long period, then! Peace be upon you!” was the reply from Abraham. I’ll ask my Lord to pardon you in a prayer. He has been so kind to me.
To identify the proper course of action in each circumstance, one should only peruse the Holy Quran, ask Allah for direction, and look to Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) or our righteous forefathers.
Another instance of suppressing anger is related in the life of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH), who was approached by a man carrying the body of a relative’s murderer.
As Anas bin Malik put it:
The Messenger of Allah ( ) was presented with a man who had killed a relative and asked the man to pardon him. However, the man refused. Take the blood money, he commanded, but he resisted. Go murder him, but be warned—you’ll become just like him. He was overtaken by someone who recalled what the Prophet of Allah ( ) had said: “Go and kill him, but then you will be like him.” He then released him.
Ibn Majah Sunan
Wrath control has been discussed in several places in the Quran, and it has also been underlined how much Allah loves someone who can control their anger. As is stated:
You have been given “pleasure,” yet it is “no more than a transient” enjoyment of this mortal life. For those who trust in their Lord, believe in him, abstain from grave sins, and forgive when they are furious, however, what is with Allah is far better and more durable.
Anger management is an indication of morality. Paradise is promised to the pious. Therefore, let’s control our wrath and refrain from saying anything that can’t be taken back. As is stated:
…Forgive them and be patient with them till Allah makes a judgment.
Without a doubt, the person who has control over his rage appeases Allah and maintains the virtues of the upright believer.
IN THE LIGHT OF HADITH AND SUNNAH, ANGER MANAGEMENT
One of the devil’s whispers that leads to many other ills, the full scope of which only Allah knows, is anger. Islam has a lot to say about this negative trait, and the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) gave treatments for this ailment and strategies for reducing its consequences, some of which are included below:
Seeking Refuge With Allah Against the False Prophet
According to Mu’adh bin Jabal’s narration, one of the two men cursed the other close to the Prophet ( ) till one of them’s faces showed signs of rage. As a result, the Prophet ( ) remarked, “Truly, I know a sentence that, if he were to utter it, would cause him to lose his temper: “I take shelter in Allah from Shaitan, the Rejected (A’dhu billhi minash-shainir-rajm).”
At-Jami’ Tirmidhi’s 3452
refusing to speak
If anyone among you feels enraged, let him be quiet, the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) commanded.
[Reported in Al Musnad by Imam Ahmed. Saheeh Al-jaami, 693, 4027 [also see]
This is due to the fact that an angry person loses control and may speak words of disbelieve or curses, or words of divorce that would destroy his home, or words of slander that would make other people hate and dislike him. Thus, the best course of action is to avoid unpleasant circumstances by remaining mute.
According to Abu Dharr, the Prophet of Allah ( ) told us to sit down when one of you grows enraged while standing. If his fury subsides, great; if not, he should lay down.
This hadith’s narrator, Abu Dharr, related it using a narrative that is related to the hadith itself. When more people arrived, they said among themselves, “Who can compete with Abu Dharr (in bringing animals to drink) and make his hair stand on end?” He was giving camels water at a trough he owned at the time. Abu Dharr was anticipating assistance with watering his camels, but the guy misbehaved and caused the trough to be broken by saying, “I can,” so he brought his animals and competed with Abu Dharr. Abu Dharr sat down because he was standing. then got into bed. “O Abu Dharr, why did you sit and lie down?” someone questioned. The Prophet of Allah said (repeated the Hadith),” he said.
Following the Prophet Muhammad’s Advice (PBUH)
According to Abu Huraira, the Prophet (pbuh) was asked for advice by a man.
“Do not grow enraged and angry,” the Prophet ( ) commanded. The Prophet ( ) responded to the man’s repeated requests by saying, “Do not become enraged and outraged.”
Keep your temper, and paradise will be yours.
One of the best methods to douse the fires of anger is to keep in mind what Allah has promised to the righteous who avoid the sources of anger and work within themselves to control it. According to a hadith, there is a huge reward for doing this:
Whoever has the ability to restrain their rage when the opportunity arises, Allah will make them happy on the Day of Resurrection.
[Al-Tabarani reported this on 12/453. Additionally, see Shaheeh Al-Jaami, 6518.
Understanding the high status provided
Prophet Muhammad(ﷺ) said, “The strong is not the one who overcomes the people by his power, but the strong is the one who regulates himself when in anger.”
The prestige of the person in control of rage increases with its intensity.
Taking the Prophet’s Lead
Our leader, Prophet Muhammad (PBUH), has led by example in this regard. According to a well-known hadith:
The Messenger of Allah (swt) was strolling alongside me and was donning a Najrani cloak with a strong border when a bedouin chance to pass by. Anas (may Allah be pleased with him) related this incident. He grabbed a side of his cloak and yanked it tight. I saw that the neck of the Prophet of Allah ( ) had been battered by the jerk’s aggression. “O Muhammad!” the Bedouin cried. Give me some of the wealth you have received from Allah. The Messenger of Allah ( ) turned to face him, grinned, and ordered that something be provided to him.
Both Muslims and Al-Bukhari
For Allah’s Sake.
Another way we can emulate the Prophet (PBUH) is by channeling our rage toward Allah whenever His rights are abused. This is the type of wrath that is admirable.
According to ‘Aisha, the Prophet ( ) entered my home while a curtain bearing images of (animals) was hanging. He became furious, and his face turned crimson. He then grabbed the curtain and tore it to pieces. “Such persons who paint these pictures will receive the severest punishment on the Day of Resurrection,” the Prophet ( ) declared.
The Prophet became so furious that his cheeks went red when he noticed some sputum in the mosque’s prayer area, according to a narration from Anas. A woman from the Ansar then arrived, scraped it off, and applied Khaluq to the affected area. Allah’s Messenger exclaimed, “How wonderful this is.”
Ibn Majah Sunan
Understanding The Impact Of Anger
Anger has a wide range of detrimental impacts. In other words, they harm both oneself and others. An angry person may use derogatory language, assault others (physically) without restraint, and even commit murder.
When a guy came to the Prophet (PBUH) when I was seated with him, he was being led by another man by a rope, according to Ilqimah Ibn Waa’il’s father (may Allah be pleased with him). “O Messenger of Allah, this man murdered my brother,” he cried. Did you kill him, the Messenger of Allah questioned him. He replied, “Yes.” How did you kill him, Prophet questioned? He slandeered me, so I attacked him on the side of the head with an axe and murdered him, the guy claimed. “He and I were hitting a tree to make the leaves fall, for animal feed.”
[Reported by Saheeh Muslim in 1307; Al-editing] Baaqi’s
Extreme rage leads to societal catastrophes and the severing of familial bonds. Children’s suffering, remorse, frustration, mental disturbance, and a challenging existence are all possible outcomes.
The weapon of the believer is always dua (supplication), through which he or she begs Allah to keep them safe from harm, difficulty, and wrath. The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) recited the following dua:
“O Allah, make me fear You in both public and private. In times of joy and rage, please help me to be honest in my speech.
The Sunan an-Nasa’i
Human nature includes rage, and levels of anger vary from person to person. Even though it may be challenging for a man to control his anger, believers will remember Allah when prompted and will turn to Him for support and direction. May Allah create us among His most pious people and lead us to the correct path.